Venus in Aries: Love Lived Loud

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”  C. JoyBell C.

Effective Dates: February 7th- March 5th, 2020

Helios’ Astrological Angle on Venus in Aries– Heretics, in the past I have been… harsh on all things Venus. I didn’t like what she represented- Beauty, Pleasure, Ease and Comfort. Venus is where you feel good about yourself. For a long time, I used my badly placed Venus to hide the fact that I really haven’t liked myself or who I was… well, ever. Thankfully, after quite a lot of inner work, my views on Venus have evolved- because I’ve evolved my views on myself. I still have a long way to go, but at the very least, this is my public peace with Venus. No more bias against her.

Venus in Aries isn’t considered a good placement. Venus is all about softness and pleasure, things that are out of place in Aries’ rough and raw world of reality. In Aries, Venus brings us passion. She ignites our hearts on fire, giving us the courage to get back into the world. It can be easy to stay safe in our little bubbles sometimes, but that’s no way to truly live. You have to live with vibrancy and meaning, to stand for something and wring every last ounce of emotion out of life. Otherwise, what’s the point? Life is meant to be lived with love, and that love is meant to make life worth it.

Speaking of worth it, this is the transit when you need to not look for love from others. Focus on giving love to yourself instead. Self-love is the most crucial lesson you can learn during this transit. Hell, its how you survive the harshness of this world. It is far too easy to write off all things Venusian in the face of all that sucks about this world and our current time, but we must always try to do things that make the harshness and cruelty more bearable. You must honor your need to be happy and satisfied. Seeking happiness can feel hollow or shallow right now, but you must do it. You cannot cut off the part of yourself that wants to enjoy your life so that you can fight for a future you might hate. You need to do more than just survive. You need to live.

Relationships can be tricky during this time (for those in them) because both partners will want to put their needs first and will fight to make them honored when they feel they have been slighted. Boundaries must be clearly defined and respected by both of you.  You must remember that you are together as equals and that neither of you has more valid needs than the other. Both parties (or more) must be respected, even if they are in opposition to each other. If nothing else, both of you being slightly unhappy is better than one feeling satisfied while the other resents them for it.

Find and focus on your own worth right now. Love begins with you, and you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Seeing and respecting your worth is self-love. This might mean leaving behind people and situations that do not respect your worth. You do not have to stay in situations that hurt you. Leaving might hurt, but staying can hurt even more. Be true to yourself. Let the love come from within you and let it guide you.